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What’s in a Word?

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I have been lucky enough to work with a variety of clients recently on their Future Focus.

The 1:1 sessions started with, where they are now, where they wanted to be and how they were going to get there.

During the course of our sessions it became apparent that the word I was using was jarring with each of them.
I was using the word Goal, which made one client shudder and one become closed and defensive.

Goal (noun)
‘the result or achievement toward which effort is directed; aim; end.’

Aim (verb)
‘to intend or direct for a particular effect, something intended or desired to be attained by one’s efforts; purpose

Dream (noun)
‘an involuntary vision occurring to a person when awake.’

I asked them to choose the word that felt most comfortable to them and to use this going forward. This helped enormously in their understanding of the Future Focus content and in turn, made it completely relevant to them as individuals.

I am sure that you have had conversations were a word you have used has caused an unexpected reaction.Listening to the language of the person you are talking to gives so many clues. When we use words that are comfortable to others we gain greater understanding and develop deeper relationships.

We can also help ourselves by changing the words we use, such as ‘should’ which implies we ‘must’ do whatever the task is. If we stop and ask ourselves “Why should I or why must I ?” We then give ourselves the freedom of choice, that can result in a very different outcome – go on try it.

The feed back from my clients has been extraordinary its all in their words!

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Camera, Lights, Action!

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It has been a while since my last blog and April showers have hit hard and now we are in May, heading towards the Bank Holiday weekend.
I had a session with a new client this week and as we chatted he told me why he was investing this time in himself.
This is how he explained it;

I get up and go to work
I spend time at the gym
I eat fresh organic food
I have great family and friends
I am fit and healthy
I have expensive holidays
I am very fourtunate, so why I am getting no return on my investments?
My life seems to play like groundhog day!
I dont want to be in this movie any more.

We look at each other and I think about my reply.

I need to share with you that this client is a iMA High Green, he completed the online questionnaire before our session.
See what colour you are here

Characteristics of a High Green are they are process driven, organised, wonderful problem solvers, diplomatic but dont like surprises.
Bearing this is mind, my reply is lets make a new film, write a new script and search for new performers or locations.

A quizzical look creeps across his face, and as this thought beds in I ask what is his favourite film?
His response is immediate, The Bourne Identity because he likes the pace of the story, identifies with the central character and the need to know why Jason Bourne behaves the way he does.

So we set to work writing a new script in which my client is not an extra but the Jason Bourne of his own movie.
He becomes animated and connected to the task, stepping tentatively into someone else’s shoes and assuming their identity.
I can see that this shift has given him permission to change the order of things and to improve how he sees his life.

Remembering that we own the rights to our personal movie is essential to our self esteem, confidence and keeping us motivated.
We can be the Director, the Producer or the Writer – now go make a blockbuster!

Popcorn is on me!

P.S. This was written with my clients permission.
He decided that if his journey in someway helps someone else, so be it.