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Beware the Snake or behold it!

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In the Chinese astronomical cycles which repeat every 12 years it is the year of the Snake, with it comes caution and focus, from February 10th 2013 – January 30th 2014.

The Snake year is about striking a balance between emotions and actions to avoid problems with Karma. A real need for focus and concentration on gaining sage spirituality and inner strength is key this year.A greater need to take time to understand and feel your way through the year to retain balance and stay on track.

This could be the year you change career as all the testing situations of the past 12 months lead you to be more future focussed. Developing the skills you have acquired to gain promotion or changing your path completely is the true spirit of the snake.

When we loose concentration we feel fatigued and the results we so desperately need become illusive. If we open ourselves up to opportunity and become involved in the journey we will gain more, move further and regain balance across the whole of our lives.

Whatever the next 12 months bring you, remember beware of the snake, learn from it and grow.

新年快乐
xin nian kuai le
Happy New Year

What’s in a Word?

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I have been lucky enough to work with a variety of clients recently on their Future Focus.

The 1:1 sessions started with, where they are now, where they wanted to be and how they were going to get there.

During the course of our sessions it became apparent that the word I was using was jarring with each of them.
I was using the word Goal, which made one client shudder and one become closed and defensive.

Goal (noun)
‘the result or achievement toward which effort is directed; aim; end.’

Aim (verb)
‘to intend or direct for a particular effect, something intended or desired to be attained by one’s efforts; purpose

Dream (noun)
‘an involuntary vision occurring to a person when awake.’

I asked them to choose the word that felt most comfortable to them and to use this going forward. This helped enormously in their understanding of the Future Focus content and in turn, made it completely relevant to them as individuals.

I am sure that you have had conversations were a word you have used has caused an unexpected reaction.Listening to the language of the person you are talking to gives so many clues. When we use words that are comfortable to others we gain greater understanding and develop deeper relationships.

We can also help ourselves by changing the words we use, such as ‘should’ which implies we ‘must’ do whatever the task is. If we stop and ask ourselves “Why should I or why must I ?” We then give ourselves the freedom of choice, that can result in a very different outcome – go on try it.

The feed back from my clients has been extraordinary its all in their words!

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Inspiration!

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I was talking to a fascinating and diverse group of people recently about how limiting beliefs really do limit us!

When we tell our selves we can’t do something, we wont pass a test or just fail at whatever we are trying to achieve, we usually do.

I shared with them the story of when I was a student and learning to drive, in Plymouth.
Plymouth is very hilly with lots of those double mini roundabouts and at the time more traffic lights than Milton Keynes!
On one of my first sojourns out, I stalled the car several times, like many learners before me. Drivers behind me were impatient, I was self conscious and felt stupid. This had a huge impact on how I saw learning to drive.

Even before I was actually in my beautiful, turquoise, VW Beetle my parents had bought me, I knew I was going to stall the car.
Actually I didn’t ‘know’ I was going to stall the car at all.
The negative self talk in my head was reinforcing all those terrible emotions and making me back away from learning to drive.

I was lucky I had a brilliant teacher who with positive repetition and praise told me I will be a good driver.
When I did stall the car, he burst out laughing and told me it didn’t matter, reinforcing that I will be a good driver.

I don’t want to tempt fate, suffice to say no problems and no stalling since 1991,Thanks Dad!

It also reminded me of the very brilliant Caroline Casey

Caroline Casey

Remember how you speak to yourself has a massive impact on what you will achieve.
Choose a belief to change, put it in a positive sentence and repeat often in the present tense-be an Inspiration!
At the end of our really challenging session most of the Limiting Beliefs had left the room.

An Extra Hour – how will you spend it?

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I saw this picture and it reminded me of a couple of weeks ago when I ran through the park kicking the leaves, enjoying the autumn colours and the sun on my face. The colours are beginning to fade along with the sun and the nights are drawing in and the clocks went back an hour yesterday!

However it got me thinking that if I could add an extra hour a day, a week or a month what would I want to do with it?

As Geoffrey Chaucer said, ‘Time and Tide waits for no man’ which galvanized me into action I grabbed my ipad and started a list…

An extra hour a day would allow me to;

Be ahead on my social media stuff
Swim more often
Have time to read those books still on my shelf
Spend more time with my children
Talk instead of text my friends
Assist more clients
Go to more networking events
Walk my dog for longer
Inspire more students

Then if I had to hone it down to only an extra hour per week how would I spend the time? Looking at the first list and understanding what supports me and gives me clarity it would have to be either…

Spend time more with my children
or
Walk my dog for longer

So

If I could only have an extra hour per month, well that’s easy based on the fact that the last two choices also motivate and inspire me, what a cracking combination they will be …

I will walk with my children and the dog at least once a month. Not sure that the children will see it that way however maybe the lure could be bacon butties or Sunday lunch in a pub!

What would you do with your extra hour?

Cause and Effect

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I have listened to a dialogue between two people who most certainly have very different perspectives. Their own personal maps of the world influence what they see, hear and feel. Consequently this will have a cause and effect, not always a positive one!

“Two men look out the same prison bars; one sees mud and the other stars.” Frederick Langbridge

Have you found it difficult to alter your position, be more tolerant and experience something from a different perspective? Are you a stars or mud person?

How would it feel to look at something differently, what is the worse that could happen?