I was talking to a fascinating and diverse group of people recently about how limiting beliefs really do limit us!
When we tell our selves we can’t do something, we wont pass a test or just fail at whatever we are trying to achieve, we usually do.
I shared with them the story of when I was a student and learning to drive, in Plymouth.
Plymouth is very hilly with lots of those double mini roundabouts and at the time more traffic lights than Milton Keynes!
On one of my first sojourns out, I stalled the car several times, like many learners before me. Drivers behind me were impatient, I was self conscious and felt stupid. This had a huge impact on how I saw learning to drive.
Even before I was actually in my beautiful, turquoise, VW Beetle my parents had bought me, I knew I was going to stall the car.
Actually I didn’t ‘know’ I was going to stall the car at all.
The negative self talk in my head was reinforcing all those terrible emotions and making me back away from learning to drive.
I was lucky I had a brilliant teacher who with positive repetition and praise told me I will be a good driver.
When I did stall the car, he burst out laughing and told me it didn’t matter, reinforcing that I will be a good driver.
I don’t want to tempt fate, suffice to say no problems and no stalling since 1991,Thanks Dad!
It also reminded me of the very brilliant Caroline Casey
Remember how you speak to yourself has a massive impact on what you will achieve.
Choose a belief to change, put it in a positive sentence and repeat often in the present tense-be an Inspiration!
At the end of our really challenging session most of the Limiting Beliefs had left the room.